It is with great sorrow that we announce the passing of our beloved son and brother. Andrew died Sunday, May 27 2012 in his 29th year, a victim of a car accident where alcohol was involved. Cherished son of Terry (Playford/Burridge) and John Herbert of Granton, and best friend to his sister, Elizabeth. Dear grandson of Harry and Betty Herbert of London. Will be missed by his aunts, uncles, and many cousins. Predeceased by his grandparents Lois Herbert, Happy Burridge, and Ted Burridge.
Friends may call at the Haskett Funeral Home, 223 Main Street, Lucan on Wednesday 2-4 and 7-9PM and for one hour prior to the funeral service, which will be held on Thursday, May 31st at 1:30 PM with Pastor Paul Vollick officiating. Interment St. James Cemetery, Clandeboye.
Donations to mindyourmind.ca (cheques to: Family Service Thames Valley) or the Granton-Wesley United Church would be appreciated by the family.
When you take away self-division
And eliminate self-friction
You limit personal restriction
And gain clarity of vision
So now that my mind is as one
My days of not knowing myself are over and done
My path lies ahead of me clear as the rising sun
And the victory of accomplishment is soon to be won
Written by Andrew
Andrew Richard Herbert
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John, Terry, and Elizabeth
Thank you, Jill and others. We continue checking this site and appreciate that Hasketts plan to leave it up.
Jill Johnston
I don’t know if you are still reading these, but I just heard Andrew’s name when they were talking about it on the news today. I worked with Andrew through WOTCH and I was amazed at what a wonderful, gentle man he was and how far he had come. I no longer worked with him only because he did not require support from us any longer. I am deeply sorry for your loss.
Magdalene
To the Family of Andrew,
I only just read about the tragic passing of your son and although I did not know him, I was extremely moved by his words and work. He must have been an exceptional young man and his sudden death will be deeply felt by his community. My sympathies are with you at this very sad time.
Diana Ali
Dear Herbert family,
I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your beautiful son and brother. He really was such a wonderful and amazing person.
I had the privilege of knowing Andrew while he volunteered and contributed and visited us at mindyourmind. It was very nice to read his poem “Feeling Different”. You really do see such a transformation in him through this piece of writing. I am so happy to see he found beauty and light before he had to go and I am so happy to have known him.
I wish you all peace, love and joy in remembering Andrew.
Diana Ali
Siobhan Stuart
To the Herbert Family,
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you during these challenging times.
With my most sincere condolences,
Siobhan Stuart
Marilyn Lausch
So sorry to hear about the passing of your son, Andrew. Look to each other for strength and be kind and gentle to yourselves as you deal with this terrible tragedy. You are in my thoughts.
Jessica
Dear Andrew,
I worked with you as a volunteer for mindyourmind.ca and I am so happy to have met you and to have spent some time with you. I really enjoyed your contributions and we had a lot of fun. I always admired your writing skills.
It’s so sad your life had to end so soon.
To the Herbert family, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this sad time.
-Jessica Ali
Carol Bennewies
John
Just to let you know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Take Care.
Carol
John and Terry Herbert
Thank you for all your kind words and love that you have shown for our son. We decided to share the poem and some of what was said at the funeral. Not sure if posting this here will have it read by others – but we wanted to get the message out.
One of Andrew’s poems
https://www.box.com/s/cbed1123468ecb164ed4
What John said:
https://www.box.com/s/8031e0cf86dfcc52b3c6
Eveline Wright
John, Terry and Elizabeth,
I am so sorry for what you are going though. Your loss is unimaginable. Please stay strong in your faith and in your love for each other. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Steve, Audrey & Brianne Skinner
Mr. Herbert
Our sincere condolences to you and your family on the tragic loss of your son (brother). May your cherished memories keep him forever close to your hearts. Our thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
The Skinner Family
Stacy and Vince
John, Terry and Elizabeth: We are so sorry for to hear of the loss of your son and brother. We are thinking of you at this difficult time. May happy memories of your time together sustain you.
Deborah Nemeth
Mr. Mrs. Herbert and Family
We are so sorry for your loss, at this difficult time,
I am a family friend of the Payne family.
Carleen Hone
Dear Terry, John and Elizabeth.
My deepest sympathies to you all. I hope that your cherished memories of Andrew will give you comfort. Your SHDHS family is thinking of you.
Carleen
Ben Berardini
Dear John, Terry and Elizabeth,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time.
Ben, Jane Berardini and Family
Sacha
From one parent to another…no parent should have to bury their child, its not the way the world is supposed to go. It is with the saddest of hearts that I write on this wall…I thought very highly of your son, I loved to see him at my house…he was always so sweet and polite and he was amazing with my granddaughter. I have to beleive that out of tragedy….lessons are learned and our love for one another grows stronger…I think of Drew alot and keep seeing that wonderful smile and truly do beleive he is now an angel watching over those he loved and helping us all through this painful time…please accept my prayers and thoughts….
sacha
From one parent to another…..no parent should have to bury their child. It is with the saddest of hearts that i write on this wall….I have always found Drew sweet and polite, I loved seeing him around my house, he always made me smile…he was great with my granddaughter and i could see nothing but love in his eyes for those who surrounded him. I know he is in a better place looking out for those he loved. I think of you all often and wish you nothing but peace….very truly sorry for your loss
Don and Deanna Beatson
John, Terry and Elizabeth,
We want you to know that during this difficult time, we will be praying for you, and trusting that God will be your peace and help; as well as comfort your entire family.
Don and Deanna
Debbie Green
John, Terry and Elizabeth
Words cannot express the sadness I feel for you at this time. Although I did not know Andrew personally, I am well aware from John’s stories of the love you felt for him. Praying you will find peace. Thinking of you….Debbie
Christina
Andrew,
It feels like not too long ago were we gathered around the table in the mindyourmind office joking around and laughing. I remember you letting me call you Andy despite the fact you preferred Andrew. I will forever miss your smile, brilliance and most of all, our occasional run-ins. You brought nothing less than joy and kindness with your presence. My heart goes out to your family and friends.
I will miss you Andy.
Marie Mitchell
Dear John, Terry and Elizabeth,
My sincere condolences for the loss of your son and brother. Though I only had the chance to meet Andrew once, I’ve often heard John speak of him with love and pride. With the support of each other and those that love you, I hope that in time you will find peace and solace in your memories of Andrew.
Sincerely,
Marie and Neil Mitchell and family
Karla Vink
Dear John, Terry and Elizabeth…..Keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers. May you find strength in your memories and the support of those around you. The Vink Family
Capstick Family
Dear Terry, Elizabeth and John
We are very sad to hear about Andrew. We will always remember him as the very patient and kind boy and young man. The camping trips are our fondest memories as he always happily played with the boys who were literally hanging on to him.
His writing is amazing.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you,
With all our Love,
Cindy, Brian, Bradley, Daniel and Alec
Russ and Mary Brintnell
Dear John, Terry and Elizabeth— We are so sorry to hear of your sudden loss as we remember him playing cards at the church and he was such a gentleman. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and treasure the memories. You have our deepest sympathy. Russ and Mary Brintnell
Blue Family
Dear John, Terry and Elizabeth..
We are deeply sorry to hear of Andrew’s passing, holding you all in our thoughts and prayers…Our deepest sympathies to you during this difficult time.
The Blue Family
Judy Brown and Robert Keen
We only knew Andrew for a short time and we were shocked and saddened to hear of his sudden passing.
He was a very polite, soft spoken and respectful young man.
We will miss him and the chats we had here at the building.
Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Judy Brown and Robert Keen
Liz Sutton
Dear Terry, John and Elizabeth
I was so saddened to hear of Andrew’s passing today. It was not an easy life for Andrew, but with your strength and his many quiet talents, he found his place in this sometimes crazy world of ours. All of the wonderful memories that we have of him will help to keep him alive in our hearts. Bless you all.
Marie Kean (Victim Services MADD St.Thomas)
To Andrew’s Family and Friends
Please know we are thinking of you at this very difficult time. May you find comfort from family and friends. Andrew was a very special man, I am sure you are very proud of him. May it bring you peace, knowing he changed the world around him. May your memories be close to your heart.
Cheryl Peach
Dear John, Terry and Elizabeth:
As many have already said, words cannot express the loss you are experiencing. Just know that family, friends and colleagues are there to support you in the days ahead. Please know that my prayers and thoughts are with you…..Cheryl
Bill & Pat Smith
We offer our sincere condolences to the whole family. Your son will be missed by many. The whole family will be in our thoughts and prayers as travel this long, rough road.
Ruth Huxtable
Dear Terry, John & Elizabeth,
My thoughts are with you at this most difficult time as you mourn the loss of your son and brother. He will be forever in your hearts. With deepest sympathy.
Zoe
I am so very sorry for the loss of Andrew. He was a great man, wonderful friend and roommate, wonderful chef, and an uncle to my daughter, Alexandra.
Pam & Tom Young (and family)
We are sorry to hear the sad news about the loss of Andrew. Your family is held close in our hearts and prayers throughout these difficult days, and the in the weeks ahead.
Tom and Janice Jones
Dear Terry, John and Elizabeth,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May cherished memories, family and friends comfort you during this very sad time.
In deepest sympathy,
Janice, Tom and girls
Dave MacLeod
Dear John and Terry
We’re so sorry for your loss; no words can adequately console you, but we hope that happy memories and the love and support of friends and family will help sustain you through these difficult days.
Dave and Cheryl MacLeod
Jenn Skelding
Dear John and family,
My heart is broken for you all with the magnitude of your loss. May peace come quickly and settle in your minds and hearts.
Love, Jenn and family
Fran Morris
Terry ,John and Eizabeth—my thoughts are with you at this time .Your faith will give you strength as you struggle through this time of wondering why.This is a very sorry time for you and I am glad that Happy predeceased Andrew as they were very close.Aunt Fran
Dave and Maureen Whiting
We were shocked and saddened to hear about your loss. We are holding you in our hearts at this tragic time.
The Whitings
Linda Wray
Dear John, Terry and Elizabeth,
It is with great sadness that I learned of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Gord and Linda Wray
Becky & Jeremy Howe
Dear John, Terry and Elizabeth,
There simply aren’t words to express our sympathy and sadness. We are so very sorry for your loss. You are in our prayers – may the Lord comfort and strengthen you…. Becky & Jeremy
II Corinthians 1:3 “He is ‘the God of all comfort.’ “
Jennifer & Jerry
Terry, John, Elizabeth & Family,
We are deeply saddened to hear of the sudden tragic loss of your son, Andrew. May love and support of those who care give you comfort in your time of need.
With sincere condolence,
The Neves family
Paula Wallis and Greg Haber
John and family:
We are so very sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
With love,
Paula and Greg
Bob and Audrey Harloff
John, Terry and Elizabeth
Sincere sympathy and kind thoughts are with you at this time.
In friendship, Audrey and Bob
Joseph Dickeson
To Andrew’s family… I am very sorry and heavy hearted to hear of Andrew’s passing he was a live wire and a very smart man… it was my privilege to work with Andrew at Summit as well as to speak and listen to him on various occasions. I did not get the chance to get to know him more outside of work however I would have loved to. He was a very genuine guy and you could tell that through the meaningful thanks and smile he’d give you after a ride home or helping him out with something. He will be missed very much at Summit as well as in my heart.
Craig and Ashley Swarthout
John, Terry and Elizabeth,
Sending you all our deepest sympathy and may you know that our caring thoughts are with you at this sad time.
The Swarthout Family
Leroy and April Bryan
Dear Terry, John and Elizabeth,
Our hearts go out to you at this sad time, and we hold you close in our prayers. Although Andrew was usually such a quiet person, he spoke with pride of his work with mindyour mind. His writings also show how much more he had to share. We will greatly miss is generous, soft spoken ways.
Guider Hellen and Family
John, Terry and Elizabeth;
May it bring you comfort in this difficult time to know that many are thinking of you and praying for you.
Tracy McLennan
Dear John, Terry, and Elizabeth,
Our condolences to you all on the tragic death of Andrew. Words are never enough to convey what we feel. Just know that we are all holding you in our hearts as you go through this most difficult time. Hold tight to each other, to family, and to friends. They will sustain you through the difficult time ahead.
Tracy and Paul McLennan and family
Graeme, Alec, Colleen and David
Elizabeth, Terry and John,
Our hearts are going out to you. May you feel some comfort from knowing so many would like to lift this pain from you.
– going gently
Andy and Candice Penner
Dear John,Terry and Elizabeth,
Our hearts are with you and your family during this sad time. We are terribly sorry for your loss.
Sincerely, Andy, Candice and the Girls
Cathy & Mike Rowell
John, Terry and Elizabeth – In my mind, Andrew will always be the little boy with glasses that I knew so long ago. My heart breaks for all of you at this sad time, and understands the pain of a family losing a son/brother.
Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending BIG HUGS to all of you and holding you all close.
Shelly, Daryl, Mathew & Natalie
We are deeply sorry to hear about your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Fred & Sharon Mardlin
Dear John, Terry & Elizabeth
We are so sorry to hear of the sudden and tragic loss of Andrew. We extend our deepest sympathy to you and pray you will find strength in knowing ohers care. Andrew will be missed but not forgotten.
Maria Luisa Contursi
It was with great sadness that we heard of Andrew’s death today. Andrew began working with us in 2007 and helped shape our program, mindyourmind. He helped develop tools and mental health promotion resources that to this day are used by youth who struggle with mental health concerns and the professionals who support them. He often contributed to our online blog, or interviewed advocates and musicians for our site or periodically would drop in and offer his support wherever needed. We always accepted his offer.
If you knew Andrew then you knew that he was always the smartest person in the room…he was quiet and still but when he spoke it was always worth listening and when he wrote it was always worth taking the time to read and reflect on his words. Upfront and between the lines you understood that Andrew understood the human experience, our struggles and our capacity to be resilient despite all. He was hopeful and generous and we thank him for making a difference.
“…There are wars and those who actively incite or oppose them, but the only thing that changes or brings change is love and destruction. It takes a great deal of hope and faith in humanity to believe in the possibility of the love revolution. This is perhaps why we again and again embrace destruction: it is easy. It is far easier to embrace hate and self-hate, hopelessness and faithlessness, than to believe we can spread love, trust, hope and faith. The love revolution requires one thing: the mentality that “I can make a difference. I can show someone care and hope that seed will grow.” Destruction, requires nothing, you need not even commit to choosing to embrace it. But, if you should choose to consciously and actively not embrace destruction, than the love revolution can begin.”
Written by Andrew
Nicole Morley
To The Herbert Family: Please accept my condolences on the passing of Andrew. I did not know Andrew personally but after reading his poem online I can tell he was a very smart, wise young man. It’s sad when you lose someone in such a tragic way but always remember to cherish the memories you all shared together. God Bless You.
Wendy Case
Dear John, Terry and Elizabeth;
My heart broke this morning when I arrived at SHDHS and heard this tragic news. I am so very sorry for your loss. May the love of your friends and family bring some comfort to you in this difficult time. W.
Kate & Roger Tudor
We miss Andrew dearly and hold cherished moments and thoughts closely and tightly. With so much love, Kate and Roger
Bob and Anne Pincombe
Dear Terri, John and Elizabeth,
Our thoughts are with all of you and keeping you close in prayer. May you find strength in the support of your family, friends and community.
Andrew will not be forgotten.
Pincombe Family
Cathy & Kirk
Terry, John & Elizabeth…Words can not describe the pain we feel for you. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you. May the strength of others get you through.
Cathy & Kirk and the boys
Don and Heather Benner
Dear John,Terry and Elizabeth…We are so sorry and saddened to hear of your tragic loss of Andrew…just devastating for your family and the community…You are in our thoughts and our hearts as you face many challenging days…In sympathy …The Benner Family